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To Our Loves

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Fifteen-year-old Suzanne (Sandrine Bonnaire) sleeps around to escape from her deteriorating home life. Her father (Maurice Pialat) physically abuses her, her mother (Evelyn Ker) is hopelessly distant and her brother, Robert (Dominique Besnehard), is an unrepentant bully. Promiscuity provides Suzanne with her only refuge, so she takes pains to keep love out of the equation, thus avoiding any more potential pain. Yet her evolving relationship with her friend Luc risks turning into something real.

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Roger Ebert Chicago Sun-Times This film could inspire a lot of self-examination for thoughtful older teenagers, and might act as a corrective for the dime-a-dozen teenage sex exploitation movies. Rated: 3.5/4 Jun 21, 2018 Full Review Richard Brody The New Yorker One of the cinema's greatest depictions of a father-daughter relationship. Sep 12, 2016 Full Review Dave Kehr Chicago Reader His unorthodox dramatic construction rejects the symmetry of classical plotting, and the narrative has a quirky, self-propelling quality that allows for some astonishing things to happen. Jan 26, 2010 Full Review Henry Sheehan Los Angeles Reader It's a fierce film, brilliantly realistic and tough, and its reticence about right and wrong, its reluctance to judge rather than observe, make it the most wrenchingly honest film about sex to hit the screens since Luna. Aug 12, 2022 Full Review Emanuel Levy EmanuelLevy.Com Arguably Maurice Pialt's best film, a startling coming-of age tale about a girl who who explores her sexuality against the setting of a dysfunctional, incestuous family. In her heartfelt performance, Sandrine Bonnaire makes a stunning screen debut. Rated: A- Nov 19, 2006 Full Review Christopher Null Filmcritic.com a punch in the stomach after a fifth of whiskey, a horrorshow of sexuality where it simply shouldn't be. Rated: 3.5/5 May 18, 2006 Full Review Read all reviews

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dave s Suzanne (Sandrine Bonnaire) is a schoolgirl living in an untenable domestic situation – her mother is mentally unstable and both her father and brother subject her to ongoing verbal and physical abuse. A Nos Amour is an intricate character study of a young girl trying to find love in a world she has difficulty understanding, ultimately engaging in sexual activity to find some sort of comfort and companionship. Bonnaire gives a brave, outstanding performance as Suzanne, a vulnerable victim of circumstances that are beyond her control. Director Maurice Pialat, who also plays the abusive father, gives the film a sense of realism via primarily handheld camerawork and natural performances from the entire cast. As difficult as it is to watch at times due to the subject matter, it is a film that needs to be seen. Rated 4 out of 5 stars 03/30/23 Full Review Audience Member We don't all hold the same capacity to love. That is one of the main messages of this movie. À nos amour is essentially a study about the development of narcissism. Suzanna, the protagonist played by Sandrine Bonnaire, shows clear narcissist traits, which are especially noticeable when it comes to her romantic relationship, but she is not the only one displaying those traits. Her family, especially the parents, are all aware of Suzanna's problems but fail to recognize their own problems; her parents are looking out mostly for themselves; and her brother treats her very cruelly at times. Her father, who is played by Maurice Pialat himself, shows occasionally a remarkable level of lucidity, but the same cannot be said about her mother and brother who share an odd, and even surreal, level of intimacy, which is revealed for example by the fact that the brother tends to take his mother's side in every fight involving her. Suzanna may well hold some genetic predisposition to be narcissist, but her odds of becoming narcissist were surely increased by living with that family. Perhaps Suzanna's narcissism is only developmental and she will be able to connect with other people as she grows up. In any case, this movie is an excellent display of how limited some people can be in their capacity to love. Rated 4 out of 5 stars 02/03/23 Full Review Audience Member With a movie like this the difference between searing, effective drama and silly melodrama is in the hands of the actors, and they pull it off for the most part. The mother was maybe a little over the top though. Its all very entertaining though. The lead character's journey feels real. I've known people like this, where there was deep sadness at the root of apparently "fun" but reckless behavior. Rated 4 out of 5 stars 02/18/23 Full Review Audience Member Charming lead and great acting. Rated 3.5 out of 5 stars 02/13/23 Full Review Audience Member Sort of a rotten story, really, filled with unhappiness and horror. But the narrative is excellent, showing us how our protagonist gets from point A to point B, and how her troubled homelife helps to steer her there. Sandrine Bonnaire sparkles on screen, a glimmer even when her relationships are crumbling at her feet. This is probably a story that will hit too close to home for some viewers; the abusive family situation she is in is doubtlessly not as uncommon as we (societly) would like to think, nor are the emotional and psychological fallouts. Rated 4 out of 5 stars 02/07/23 Full Review Audience Member As time goes by, the avant-garde depiction diminishes in value. Rated 3 out of 5 stars 02/25/23 Full Review Read all reviews
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Synopsis Fifteen-year-old Suzanne (Sandrine Bonnaire) sleeps around to escape from her deteriorating home life. Her father (Maurice Pialat) physically abuses her, her mother (Evelyn Ker) is hopelessly distant and her brother, Robert (Dominique Besnehard), is an unrepentant bully. Promiscuity provides Suzanne with her only refuge, so she takes pains to keep love out of the equation, thus avoiding any more potential pain. Yet her evolving relationship with her friend Luc risks turning into something real.
Director
Maurice Pialat
Producer
Daniel Toscan du Plantier
Screenwriter
Maurice Pialat, Arlette Langmann
Rating
R
Genre
Drama, Romance
Original Language
French (France)
Release Date (DVD)
Jun 6, 2006
Runtime
1h 35m